One of the fundamental focuses of Earth-life for practically everyone is relationship. How many books, movies, TV shows are written every year with romantic relationship as the most important element? How much time is spent by an average adult thinking about and working on relationships? And yet with all the attention from so many millions, very few attain anything close to an Ideal Relationship. I think this may be one of the most frustrating, if not the most frustrating facts of Earth-life: with all the attention and desire focused on relationship, very, very few attain Ideal relationships, relationships that serve to expand the love and joy and healing of the partners and everyone else touched by the union. Why is this? Primarily because the focus is off: the only way to structure perfection on the outside is to know perfection on the inside.
This simple assertion may seem to fly in the face of common sense. If you want anything on the outside, how could you possibly find it without looking outside? Skill in action comes when you learn the inside controls the outside. Whatever it might be that you are seeking, prepare first your mind and heart to receive it, and it will come to you. Ignore this simple precept, and all the attention in the world focused outward will never produce the desired result.
Relationships in the waking state are primarily based on lack, on need, on limitation. One is attracted to another because of some sort of hole in oneself. The outer person more or less fills the hole; this leads to a temporary respite from experiencing the pain of the Emptiness inside. But such a solution is temporary at best; the flowing change of the Universe rips partners away from us, or reveals to us their limitations in glaring terms that cannot be ignored. This can be an extraordinarily painful process: if a large enough portion of your spirit is invested in the other, than the removal of the other can be a living hell.
When two come together from wholeness, on the other hand, when neither is empty inside, when neither is attempting to fill a subconscious or conscious lack, then the potential dawns to meet and become involved with a true Complement. What is a “true Complement?” A partner that is not coming to you out of lack or limitation or pain or suffering but out of fullness and expansion and completion and joy. The initial stage of such an Ideal Relationship may appear similar to a relationship based in lack, but wait but the shortest of moments, the Ideal Relationship expands love and joy of each of the partners and everyone else in Creation.
Such a Relationship heals not only the principals but all people contacted by the couple. Because the Relationship is not coming out of lack but solely out of expanding love and joy, everyone touched by such a union is pushed ahead in the direction of Healing. Such a Relationship, then, serves the purpose and intent of the Holy Spirit to Heal all of humanity.
Many of us in our deepest hearts have sought such a Relationship for years. Perhaps we accepted a compromise or two along the way, perhaps we spent years in a relationship that was anything but Ideal, perhaps we despaired of ever finding our Complement and gave up the search long ago. Perhaps we believed perfection impossible to achieve and contented ourselves with success in other areas.
For all who have given up, take heart! There is a new movement today occurring on the Earth. The return to our world of the full feminine counterpart of Isha, Ishani, is making possible today for everyone what was before restricted to a fortunate few. The collective consciousness of the human race is being daily more and more permeated with the quality of unconditional love that is Ishani; the transformation of all relationships in the light of the perfection of that love is certain.
The growth of consciousness of the human race mirrors that of the individual. That which appeared as a fanciful or far-off dream is today manifesting clearly on the Earth. Enlightenment was before considered difficult or impossible to attain; today the very real goal of full human consciousness is being attained by ever-expanding numbers of Teachers and students of Ascension. Three of the counterparts of full human consciousness are relevant to the concept of Ideal Relationships. First, when one has structured complete and perfect awareness of the Ascendant One always, one’s sense of self-worth is no longer deficient. “Toady” self-worth becomes impossible; since this is so, one of the primary stumbling blocks to perfect Relationships is irrevocably gone. No longer does one seek a partner to fulfill a lack or out of need; one seeks a perfect Complement to continue to expand in love and joy and understanding.
Second, when one has stabilized awareness of the Infinite everywhere, always, one naturally finds that there is no longer any need nor even desire to control the environment. Control or the attempt to control cripples more relationships than any other single fact. In enlightenment, that is gone forever.
Third, when the perfection of Infinite Awareness is lived continually, one no longer judges nor even attempts to judge the environment nor anything in it. Without the ongoing battle of judgment, life is freed to simply be. With the freedom of life to reside in simplicity and grace, all the outer Universe aligns by improving the quality of all relationships. Without judgment, there is no projection. Without projection, one simply experiences what is being freely offered to one. Then begins life in innocence and joy. Then the perfection of the Ideal Relationship becomes as certain as the dawning of full enlightenment.
It is a wonderful, glorious, expanding moment in the long history of the human race. Fortunate are those who are alive today to experience the full descent of Ishani. More fortunate are those awake enough to recognize this growth of unconditional love. Most fortunate are those who have dedicated everything of their lives in one-pointed faith and commitment to the Healing of the Earth and the will of God. Their future is indescribable in wonder and glory.